There’s a lot of options, evidently, so it’s easiest to narrow it down a bit to start. What kind of size range are you comfortable with? Is there any certain shape you prefer, like a curve, or a flared head, or a taper?
I did have to disable anon, but if you message off-anon it won’t be posted publicly. (You can also use Tumblr’s IM system if you want the privacy safety net.)